“Joe laid his hand upon my shoulder with the touch of a woman. I have often thought him since, like the steam-hammer that can crush a man or pat an egg-shell, in his combination of strength with gentleness.”
quote from “Great Expectations“
Joe is a secondary character in the novel Great Expectations, yet I felt his presence strongly throughout the whole novel. The main character, Pip, is the one narrating the above-mentioned quote and the recipient of Joe’s gentleness. As the quote above suggests, Joe is full of strength and compassion.
Reading this passage reminded me of the event that made me believe in love at first sight.
It was back in 2013 in Korea.
I was in the subway, going home after a long day of work.
It was a bit crowded, which meant there were lots of people standing.
I stood people-watching, as I often like to do. And I noticed an ajushi (older man) who looked like he had had quite a bit to drink. That was nothing unusual, as Korean subways are filled with such men at such times. Then, there was a lady who seemed to have bumped against the ajushi as she was getting up. This got him flustered, and he was getting ready to raise a ruckus. Slurred words, pointed fingers, lady taken aback.
And that’s when I saw him.
He came out of nowhere and put himself between the lady and the ajushi. There was an empty seat behind the ajushi by now, and he gently put his hand on the ajushi’s shoulder and suggested he sit there. (It must have been something like Joe’s hands on Pip’s shoulder.) In his mannerisms, I saw that he did not judge the ajushi. His eyes also showed authority and strength, as if saying, ‘I know you may be feeling lots of things, but I cannot let you cause such a ruckus, sir.’ As a child who is calmed by a mother’s loving touch, this drunk ajushi stayed in his seat. Every now and then, the drunk ajushi would slur some words as he tried to get up once again, as if to re-start a fight, to which the man responded in quiet tones and the same hand on the shoulders. Eventually, the ajushi came to a state of complete silence and peace.
I couldn’t keep my eyes off the man who had so gently and firmly been justice and mercy at the same time. I was mesmerized.
He was wearing a long black coat. He had dyed his hair of a unique color that was almost silver with a tint of purple. He had a deep voice that spoke respect, compassion, care for his neighbor.
I, who had never believed I could fall for someone in such a short instant, was here, in a crowded subway, realizing I had fallen for a stranger I would never see again.