Category: family

Tyrion’s Cute Habit

Tyrions is my brother’s dog and I love him very much. (The post below is from February 2020.)

So, Tyrions has this really cute habit of chilling next to my brother’s flip-flops (he is Tyrion’s owner).

Not long ago, I got to babysit him for two days. Fair enough, first day, he chills with my bro’s flip-flops.

On the second day, I turn around from doing some laptop work, and lo and behold! Tyrions was chilling on my flip-flops. If this is not love, I don’t know what is ♡

#tyrionschillingonmyflipflopsmaybethecutestthingever

부모님과의 즐거운 일상 (Everyday Shenanigans with the Parents)

엄마랑 / with Mom

(English below) Salgo con mamá durante la cuarentena para ir a buscar un paquete que llegó a una dirección incorrecta. Caminamos como 15 cuadras y a la vuelta nos agarra hambre. Compramos unos sanguches de miga y una gaseosa. Sale 90 pesos, que es como un dólar. . Pongo voz de canchera y digo, “Hay que darse estos placeres de la vida de vez en cuando.” . Mi mamá pone voz de más canchera todavía y dice, “Hay que mantener la economía girando.” . Ayudando a girar la economía un dólar a la vez. 🤣

Mom and I had to go out during the quarantine to get some mail that got sent to the wrong address. It was about 15 blocks away, so we walked quite a bit. On our way back, we both got hungry, so we bought these tiny sandwiches and a soda as snacks. All of this adds up to 90 pesos, which is basically a dollar. . I put on the voice of a show-off/잘난척 and say, “가끔은 이렇게 해줘야지. (You gotta give yourself a little reward every now and then.)” . Mom replies with a more show-off/잘난척 voice, “경쟁이 움지기게 해야지. (Gotta keep the economy moving/running.)” . Movin’ the economy one dollar at a time. 🤣 .

#90pesosmovestheeconomy

아빠랑 / with Dad

Sorry, this is hard to translate into English (I think it reads better in Korean), but I will give it my best go:

Dad and I like to sing while doing household chores.

The other day, I was doing laundry and humming a base-heavy/drum-heavy/rhythmic song by Kiha & The Faces. I then had to take the laundry basket back to its place and had to go through the kitchen to do so. I was doing some silly dances as I continued to listen to my pop, very “worldly” song.

As soon as I enter the kitchen, I hear a very soothing and “holy” melody.
It’s a hymn.
Dad was washing the dishes.

I immediately stop my silly dancing and humming.
I walk almost tip-toe with in the most “holy” way of walking I can–hands together as though in prayer and sure, gentle steps.

And then I burst out in laughter. This whole situation is so funny I tell my dad everything I just told you above. He laughs.

And I guess this is the everyday stuff I enjoy sharing with him.

Love in Times of Different Personalities

[Archive Insta post from May 2020]

Mom and I have vastly different personalities.

She is super emotional and the definition of empathy. I have to think about emotions, am very sure of what I think but am at a loss about what I feel, and have to think in order to arrive at empathy.

She loves this book that says men are from Mars and women from Venus. And we both acknowledge how much I don’t understand Venus and have heavy Mars leanings.

I can’t side with people unless I feel as though there are solid reasons to do so, mom sides with people if she cares for them or they seem to need her care.

Yesterday we had a major argument that started with my desire to help her. I didn’t scratch where the scratch was wanted or needed, but instead increased her stress. She expressed that she knew she was overreacting, but that she needed to do that in order to move on.

I am finding out that loving those closest to me often means to remain in that mystery of not being able to cognitively understand them while showing the love or compassion that they want or need.

아빠 and Me (진지 version)

From June 13, 2019 Insta Post:

When I left Argentina a year ago, I was at a standstill-dead sort of relationship with my dad. I shared how much this saddened me and frustrated me with many people. I also shared how God kept telling me to just let it die. I hesitantly obeyed, and I came back to Argentina without expecting anything out of this father-daughter relationship. And wow. I am amazed at how much God has been working in my heart and my dad’s heart separately. I’m not saying we have a perfect relationship, but we have some sort of relationship building in such a subtly enjoyable way that I cannot help but praise God for His love, mercy, wisdom, and compassion for us.

“Behold, I am doing a new thing; now it springs forth, do you not perceive it? I will make a way in the wilderness and rivers in the desert.” – Isaiah 43:19 ESV

From May 27, 2020 Insta Post: (edited)

I have been learning to honor and respect the earthly father God has given me. Because of past choices dad made, our family admittedly had a hard time. Yet once my dad met God relationally, I realize the Word has slowly but surely been transforming him in amazing ways. Now, it’s such a miracle to examine my heart and see the depth of love and respect I feel for him. Without knowing how or when, we started building a solid relationship, and it is solid because it is built on Christ. I no longer want to spend time dwelling on the past and counting it against him (though I will not stop acknowledging that it was a hurtful past). I love how at peace I can be in his presence. To just enjoy each other’s presence. He is far from perfect (still watches way too much YouTube and Netflix), but I love how he responds to my silly and serious inquiries, how he never gets mad at me for laughing at him (and posting silly pictures of him), how he still thinks I look like a teenager, how he shares what Christ is doing in him, how he admonishes and encourages me so genuinely.

From Nov 26, 2020 Insta Post

우리 아빠는 내가 같은 나라에 안 살고 있으면 몇년동안 연락 안 할수 있는 분이시다. 옛날에는 이것 때문에 너무 서운하고 아빠가 원망스러웠었다. 하지만 아빠의 상처들을 더 알게 되고 아빠를 더욱 큰 마음으로 보기로 결심했을때부터 보이기 시작 했다: 아빠 마음속으로는 나를 많이 아끼지만 표현을 잘 못할 뿐. (이게 괜찮고 좋다는게 아니라 상대방의 관계적인 한계를 인정 한다는 뜻) 가끔씩 내가 전화 해서 영상통화 하면 아빠 표정에서 느껴진다. 너무너무 내가 사랑스럽고 반갑고 좋다는걸.. 옛날에는 내 상처와 내 관점에서만 생각해서 아빠의 사랑과 정이 별로 안 느껴졌었는데 이제는 다르다. 아빠는 옛날에 비해 많이 성장 하셨고 더 이상 성장 안 한다고 해도 나는 아빠의 한계에 대해 서운해 할 필요가 없는거다. 왜냐하면 아빠의 부족함에서도 나를 사랑한다는 마음은 전달 되고 있어서다. 그 마음을 못 봤던 내가 오히려 더 부끄럽다.